The conversation began easily enough, “My brother is bleeding our parents into the poor house with his unending demands for money – money to support his addictions – and they don’t seem able to stop giving it to him, even though he isn’t getting any better. ” Or we hear from the parents themselves, “How can I get my spouse to stop giving our adult daughter money she just spends on booze or drugs?
Her promises are worthless and the demands endless.” It’s not an uncommon condition.
Some of the feelings can include the following: Although the child tries to keep the alcoholism a secret, teachers, relatives, other adults, or friends may sense that something is wrong.
We attempt—most of us successfully—to create a satisfying way of life without alcohol. AA does not keep membership files, or attendance records. No one will bother you if you don't want to come back. An AA meeting may take one of several forms, but at any meeting you will find alcoholics talking about what drinking did to their lives and personalities, what actions they took to help themselves, and how they are living their lives today. We in AA know what it is like to be addicted to alcohol, and to be unable to keep promises made to others and ourselves that we will stop drinking. Our only qualification for helping others to recover from alcoholism is that we have stopped drinking ourselves.You post bail, buy cars, pay rent, doctors’ and attorneys’ fees, and pay for treatment that they rarely see through and that usually doesn’t work even when they do.