So, before you click "Flirt," "Like," "Favorite," or IM your next prospective match, here are some suggestions: 1.
Don't use your real name (or anything that gives away your identity).
Of course, when you think about it, what seems more silly: joining a community of fellow looking-for-love singles, who are introduced to you based on potential compatibility?
Or heading to the nearest bar, feverishly scanning for someone who ‘looks' single, then hoping like mad that a) they’ll notice you and b) that you have something – anything – in common? And the statistics support this: recent research has shown that internet dating is now the second most-common way to find a partner, while as many as 1-in-3 marriages start online.
While that’s a nice enough plot for a Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan film, reality doesn’t work like that.
If you sit around in anticipation of love, all you’ll get is a long wait.
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
It used to be that you went to singles events or bars, or you might have been paired up by family, friends, or coworkers. The last time I was on online dating I met someone who I went out with for four months.If you're both interested, try to meet in person a soon as possible.If you're both local, try not to let more than a few weeks go by before meeting. Don't share private information right away (your address, where you work, kind of car you drive, how much money you make, where you live, etc.).’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Go online, sure, but remember to bring your honesty, integrity, values, and principles with you. The first time I began, I was a beginner at it and I was living at home and I didn't have a lot of confidence and it didn't work out.