And, if you find yourself driving by your ex’s house, it’s probably time to go to a good therapist, not go on a date. Despite your divorce challenges, you content with yourself and your life and have the patience to wait for the right person to come along instead of shacking up with the first person you meet on If you have children or there are major issues still looming in your divorce, here are some flashing “danger ahead” signs to watch for as you reenter the dating scene. If your ex is already angry or didn’t want to end the marriage, finding out that you are now happily ensconced with another person could force your spouse to dig in even further in your divorce proceedings.
The last thing you want right now is to find yourself in a new relationship before you’ve emotionally divested yourself of the old one. You do not write copious, lengthy e-mails to your former spouse detailing his many transgressions and trying to control what he does in his house. I then became an involuntary eavesdropper to one side of a very heated conversation. After he hung up, he apologized, saying that even 10 years after his divorce, his ex-wife still made him crazy.