I'm sorry I have no answers for you, but I can sympathize!
And when we see them going down a path to nowhere it's upsetting. My daughter, too, sounds so Jekyll/Hyde-what's with that?
The e-mail feedback I have received on the article has been tremendous.
It’s clear the article is a way of identifying not only “losers” but controlling, abusive, and manipulating individuals.
We also want to be happy for our children, yet when they choose paths that lead to nowhere we don't think they are going to end up happy so that's upsetting too. She is the nicest person ever when she's NOT with these 'losers'.
Then to top that off, when our adult children don't seem to care that they are going nowhere we end up lost for words to explain, even to ourselves, how we feel. I told her once, it's like she's 'possessed', and I'm in some kind of science fiction movie.
My friend has brought up that the guy probably has Asperger’s syndrome, which, okay, that explains some of the social awkwardness, but I hate how my lovely, kind, and outgoing friend is always explaining and apologizing for this bozo’s outbursts.For example, the two of them went on a long bike trip together, and it took longer than this guy expected because my friend is not as in-shape and had to work harder to keep up, so the partner got upset that things were taking so long.He is very socially awkward and will often blurt out hurtful and insulting things at social gatherings that are later explained away as “jokes.” He’s also extremely conservative and quotes Glenn Beck all the time, and his idea of how their marriage should work definitely casts himself as a traditional husband and my friend as a “wife” even though they are both men.A woman who is being manipulated by her guy doesn't need someone else telling her what to do.
Don't be forceful with your opinions -- or worse -- pressure or control her into leaving the relationship, says psychologist Joseph M.If she does hint at trouble in the relationship, put the focus on how she is feeling, rather than attacking her boyfriend.