If anyone could answer this question definitively, they'd be billionaires.They'd be at the top of the NYT bestsellers list forever with the Harry Potter of romantic self-help books.Here are some of his tips for finding – and keeping – The One. Do you want looks, wealth, a young toned Olympian or a man with a Chelsea townhouse? THE MORNING AFTERLavak tells me: "Men have confidence issues too and if he doesn't hear from you after a date he'll think you're not interested.Whatever it is you can find it more easily if you hang out in places where your "type" does. So don't wait for him to call, let him know you had a great time."Suggest another date, don't play it cool.He grew up in New York before studying psychology at the London School of Economics and after a successful career in international finance now runs a business consultancy in the City."Friends told me to make an effort – so I did but with the advent of technology and internet dating the dating scene was unrecognisable from what I'd known before."Some girls seemed adept at the whole dating game and had men falling in love with them.Meanwhile others were inept, including some of my own friends who are attractive and lovely but relentlessly single."The women who are most successful at dating and marriage know how to make a man feel good.How men fall in love – The seven stages of love Stage 1 – Appreciation This is all about physical appearance and instant attraction.
Blake Lavak, 53, spent seven years after his divorce in 2006 observing the dating world in his quest to find The One.
Some people, however, seem to need no encouragement or signs from the other person – they fall in love repeatedly – often with people who aren’t interested, or available, and often with sad consequences.