Maybe you've even tried or even Ashley Madison or Craigslist. Research has shown there is a General Anxiety related to the unknown of how this will work out. Also present is a social type of anxiety that stops you from being truly yourself "not to upset the apple cart." When taking into consideration that you never expected to be in this "unsafe" circumstance, it can produce a trauma-like response, putting you on edge expecting the next shoe to drop.
More than a moral dilemma, it is also a psychological dilemma with the likelihood of a multiple types of anxiety encroaching upon you.
Many women will justify dating a married man by pointing out that he made vows to his wife and, therefore, he is the only one who is doing something wrong by breaking his vow of monogamy.
However, these vows are made and publicly recorded so that everyone is aware that there is a mutual agreement in place and that a marriage bond exists.
This will likely be the hardest part as you have probably developed strong emotional ties because you have had an affair vs. Break up with him, even if he has promised to leave his wife for you.
Lisa Mooney has been a professional writer for more than 18 years.