It was just too young for me; and anyway, I wanted to wait until I loved the guy I was with, and my first boyfriend was just a crush.So at 16, I thought I had it all figured out: find someone special and all the pieces will fit together (pun intended). In my freshman year I dated this guy who seemed perfect: sweet, smart, and handsome, the whole deal.You probably had a list at one point in your life that included things like tall, dark and handsome—but although physical attraction is important, we all know there’s more to a good partner than just good looks.Take time to reevaluate your dating criteria after college and discover which qualities are most important and in sync with your own values.The physical stuff came pretty quickly, but when I stopped him going too far and told him why, I felt tears come into my eyes.He wasn’t mean or judgmental about it—we were just about 18 after all—but he laughed at me when he saw the tears in my eyes and suddenly I felt misunderstood, and more important, pressured. I knew that my emotional reaction meant that something about him didn’t sit well with me. Meeting guys in bars or going on first dates was much more complicated during my college years, because when the time came—when that question,“Wanna come back to my apartment? That happened so many times that I practically perfected my responses, and, more than that, I avoided first dates. Would every “good” first date end in an invitation for sex?But you didn’t meet that special someone, so here you are back in the dating game, slowly losing your mind after each failed first date and less-than-perfect Tinder match. We rounded up nine essential rules for dating after college.
He was the bad-boy type—definitely more experienced than I was—and I was attracted to him even though I knew I would never have sex with him.
It was like you tested each guy to see how far you could push them to prove they were worthy of you.