I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.After several months of bliss and sex, he started treating her badly and her moods were very erratic, varied by however they were doing at the moment.During the teenage years, young people are trying to come into their own and often rebel against their parents and other adults, which is why they often chose friends and relationships that their parents disapprove of, including dating older men.I hate when I am working with a teenage girl and she tells me she is dating an older man, usually because I know that this relationship, while to her may be idyllic and dreamy, is more often a disaster waiting to happen on so many levels.Recently a client of mine who is 17, started dating a 23 year old man, and while the age difference isn’t drastic, one has to think, what would a 23 year old man who could date anyone 18 and up, want with a 17 year old high school student? Of course they had a lot of that, often unprotected, but luckily she never got pregnant although she hasn’t gotten tested for any sexually transmitted diseases.I told her when she initially talked about him pursuing her, his reason was that there aren’t any girls 21 and up that were “cool”, that there just wasn’t something right about a man who should be on the verge of finishing college, dating someone who’s in high school.
We'll explore the advantages and disadvantages to juggling co-parenting and dating below. The simple act of going out on a date may require him to hire a babysitter or ask family and friends to watch his child for a few hours, which is sometimes a major inconvenience.
The more you are confident in YOU, the less the bad stuff affects your decisions. A loving reciprocal relationship is tough to come by. I hope that when i do tell my parents they'll see how much i love him, and how sure i am in our relationship. There is no way on this earth that you can get them to 'like' the idea of you dating a much older guy. Going in and talking with them, you have realize BEFOREHAND that they can say whatever they feel.
That they may explode, that they may just adore it. You are in a relationship with your guy, you feel it's the right thing to do, you are not in a relationship with your parents.
And if that's a case your just being ignorant.
Because if him being black wasn't a big deal I don't think you would have even mentioned his race.
If you believe in your relationship, you believe that you are making the right choice and doing the right thing for yourself, then approaching your parents will tough, but manageable.