A couple of nights ago, I was sitting in a restaurant with a mélange of expats and some poor Frenchies who had the misfortune of winding up in my presence. If French people stopped being so damn lazy and invested half of the time they spend complaining into actually doing something, magical things would happen.With three functioning brain cells left to rub together after days of holiday boozing, I took a receipt and started mapping out a list of reasons why the spawn of Rimbaud and Baudelaire don’t seem to be doing it for me in the romantic sense. Cancer would be cured, the French economy would stop progressively going down the drain, unicorns would fly and procreate. However, I will argue in my defense and reinstate that hygiene in this country is suffering. And then, she asked me the dreaded question: I started to panic. Obviously, he often will want to go fast, but it is up to you to slow him down, if you so wish. What is it with Anglo-Saxon guys dating several women at the same time until you declare your love to each other? As for the misconception that French men are serial cheater, well, I say that fidelity has nothing to do with nationality. That’s probably one of the reasons why Victoria Beckham became so successful. But often, it is all about making him believe that he took the initiative, when clearly you have paved the way for the relationship to start. Yes, he might be the one, or your fragile heart might end up being broken again.
However, if a woman is dining with a man, you can bet he will pick up the check. I usually trick them by asking to be excused (as if I was going to the lady’s room, grab the waiter and give him my credit card). Do you simply go to the country, you meet the man, and there you go? Everything in our lives is influenced by our cultures. Especially dating…Ignoring the dating rules of the country you’re in will cause trouble and failures in your dating attempts (yes, I’m sadly talking from experience here, Jennifer, if you read this : “sorry, I misunderstood a few things back in 1998”).