You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.Even though he wasn't stereotypically handsome, he was delightful and quick to make fun of himself—and to tease me: the typical American. When I wrote my college friend Rachel about George, she wrote back: What is with you and English guys? He was English, witty, slightly bumbling, and had a crooked smile. He was also part of an emerging pattern: He wasn't the first British guy I'd romantically clicked with. When I first moved to Beijing right after graduating from Brown, I never intended to fall for so many English guys.In my defense, I'd say Gwyneth Paltrow, who recently announced her separation from Chris Martin—who, in turn, blamed the breakup on his own lack of enthusiasm for life—would probably understand the initial attraction.As would Emma Stone (who is dating Brit Andrew Garfield).The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
Christopher and I have been dating for over a year now, and I can honestly say that dating him has been very exhilarating.This article is the first in a series that looks at the differences in dating in Britain and The United States.